Sober Friends

The Sober Friends Podcast: Two Guys Talking Recovery

Matt and Steve have been sober for over a decade each. They still don't have it all figured out.

This is a podcast about recovery - AA recovery specifically - but it's not your sponsor's recovery podcast. It's two friends talking through the stuff that actually matters:

What do you DO when you're not drinking? How do you handle control issues 15 years in? Why does calling someone in recovery feel so goddamn hard? What happens when you remove alcohol but don't replace it with anything? And seriously, do you miss drinking or do you just miss the relief?

Every week Matt and Steve work through these questions together - sometimes they have answers, sometimes they're figuring it out in real time, and sometimes they just need to talk it out like you do with a friend who gets it.

If you're in recovery, thinking about recovery, or just trying to figure out how to live without alcohol as your coping mechanism - welcome. Grab some coffee. Let's talk.

Topics: Alcoholics Anonymous, 12-step recovery, sobriety, addiction, relapse, service work, early recovery, staying sober, and everything in between.

Matt and Steve work AA programs but speak only for themselves. This show isn't affiliated with Alcoholics Anonymous.

New episodes weekly at soberfriendspod.com

Podcasting since 2019 • 295 episodes

Sober Friends

Latest Episodes

E275: Stop Arguing With Reality for One Day

In this episode, Matt and Steve talk about acceptance in sobriety — not as approval, not as giving up, and not as pretending everything is fine. It is about getting honest with reality instead of wasting energy trying to control people, outcome...

May 10, 2026 • Episode 275 • 30:58

E274: Sober Twelve Years. Still Avoiding the Phone

Matt and Steve talk about what happens when old alcoholic thinking shows up without the alcohol. Matt shares what it has been like tapering off medication, including the dark, isolating feeling that reaching out would not help — even when he kn...

May 05, 2026 • Episode 274 • 32:54

E273: A 13-Year-Old Knew He’d Been Drinking

A 13-year-old goes to Six Flags and comes back with a story—she could tell right away that another parent had been drinking. No one told her. She just knew.That moment turns into a bigger conversation about what kids actually pick up on,...

April 28, 2026 • Episode 273 • 33:05

E272: Why You Know What to Do… But Still Don’t Do It

Ever know exactly what you should do… and still can’t make yourself do it?That’s what this episode is about.This week, Matt and Steve talk about the kind of overwhelm that doesn’t show up as a crisis — it just builds quietl...

April 21, 2026 • Episode 272 • 32:58

E271: I Did Everything Right… So Why Is This Happening?

Ever feel like you’re doing everything right… and it still blows up anyway?That’s what this episode is about.This week, Matt and Steve talk about those moments when life hits hard even when you’re showing up, doing the work...

April 14, 2026 • Episode 271 • 39:14

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Fan Mail

kindness is a choice. Since I’m self centered I will get defensive. With the program tools I’m able to pause ( my HP is in the pause ) and proceed with kindness. Mick G.

Sarasota, Florida